1 month

Now that I am closing in on nearly 2 months old, I realized I needed to hurry up and do a 1 month old post! Life with three kids has been crazy. I knew it would be, and that was the part that was stressing me out the most about having another baby. When I had Lincoln, I was so beyond overwhelmed at having to take care of two kids by myself that poor Ethan didn't eat breakfast until 1 in the afternoon the first day I was home alone with them. This time around, I don't know if it was because I was used to juggling more than one kid at this point or what, but my first day home alone with all three kids, my boys were dressed and eating breakfast (waffles even!) by 9:30 in the morning! It was quite an accomplishment for me.

For months leading up to Jade being born, all my Grandma would tell me was that she just wanted to snuggle the baby. They needed bonding time. Because so much was going on when I had her, no one was able to pick her up and take her to the hospital to visit me. The day I came home, pretty much as soon as I walked in the door my mom called and asked if she could bring my Grandma over to visit. I love watching my cute Grandma with brand new babies. She always just lights up!

My friend Sandy is also cute to watch with new babies. She's also a lactation consultant and came to help me out of a rough patch. Life got much easier after that!

Nanan has been named the baby whisperer. Jade has been a lot more difficult than both of my boys. She cries a lot. I mean, pretty much every single time her eyes were open she was crying. Nanan was one of the few people who could get her to calm down and fall asleep. Love this lady!

Jade was less than thrilled when it came time to give her a bath.

She is definitely a drama queen! I'm in trouble when she gets bigger for sure.

Since we live a lot closer to my mom now (1 mile!), and I have a new baby and two rambunctious boys, she has been coming over a lot to snuggle and spend time with my boys. It's been so nice. Sometimes in Richmond it felt like we had no grandparents at all for my boys and it made me super depressed when I thought about it. I'm so glad she's getting to know my boys better now!

And when she visits, after she's done giving the boys popsicles and playing, she always has to have some baby snuggles.

As I look back over the last month (now two), you never remember how exhausting having a newborn is! Maybe it's just significantly worse because I have two other yahoos I still have to take care of. I love when Mart gets home from work and he goes all gooey over the girlie and spends time with her.

I've tried my best to spend time with my boys as well so that they still know that I love them even though I don't have as much time as I used to. I don't feel like I'm doing a very good job at trying to balance everything out and being the mother that I need to be, but I always hope my boys know that they are loved. It'll be nice when things continue to settle and we can get back into a good routine.

My mom got me this carrier, and it has been a life saver some days! I have been able to get things done that I wouldn't have been able to otherwise. It's super nice at the grocery store too!

Us after Ber's wedding. Jade had a busy first month of her life!

I haven't had a ton of luck getting really good pictures of the little miss, because as I said earlier, she cries a lot. One minute she looks like this:

And then I blink and she looks like this:

To help me out, my mom has been mowing the grass for us each week. It didn't take very long before she was tired of picking up dog poop, so she gave my boys a job. She told them she would pay them to clean up the dog poop every day. They don't seem to mind one bit! Ethan is going to have a good amount of money to spend next time we go to Disneyland!

It's still hard to believe that we have three kids, but Jade fits right in just like she has always been here. We sure love her! My boys adore her and can't stay away from her. She has the best big brothers!

My sweet girl at 1 month old

Ber's Wedding

Two weeks after Jade was born, we had another big family event. Ber and Dallan got married! We had lots of family coming and were excited to spend time with them. I was nervous because I was recovering from a c-section, and had a two week old which meant not a lot of sleep and down time to prepare for lots of visitors. We had the perfect solution for lots of the out of town guests (all from one family), they were going to be staying at my empty house in Richmond. The only problem was, it wasn't anywhere near ready for them to be there. Everyone spent the week before the wedding (minus me, I felt so helpless!) packing everything remaining in my house and cleaning to make the house ready for people to sleep there. One thing led to another, and we weren't able to have our shower ready for them when they arrived (long story). Since we only have one bathroom, that created a few problems, but we were able to work with what we had. Everyone either came to my house or Kacean's house for showers, and that also meant we got to spend more time with them too.

Ber and Dallan had chosen to do a two day wedding weekend. Friday morning we did all the group pictures at the park to get that out of the way, and then Friday evening was the reception. Saturday morning was the wedding and then everyone could do what they wanted for the rest of the day. Mart and I chose to have everyone visiting over for a bbq at our house so we could hang out in a low key environment without worrying about wedding details. It was so great to spend time with family that we don't get to see very often.


And now for the pictures. . .

**There are a lot of photos, and I'm really not sure what I am supposed to say about a lot of them. I will just put short labels of what's going on** 

Ber and Dallan. I'm so happy for both of them. They dated a few years back, and I told Mart over and over again how Dallan was perfect for her and she needed to marry him. I was really bummed when they broke up and for the three years they were apart, still talked about how she needed to marry him. He came back into our lives out of the blue and they were together within a month or so and engaged a month after that. I told him that when it's right, it will happen fast. We love Dallan and are glad he's officially part of our family.

Ber and Maid of Honor Kace

Ber and Mr. Zack

Tyler. He's getting so big!

Best man Mart and Dallan

All the sisters

Since Miss Jade is the only girl, she can just join us older girls. :)  

All the siblings (minus Josh)

Mart, Ber and George

The Curbishley four

Ber and her four nephews (who all absolutely adore her!)

My handsome Lincoln

Mart and Ryan

Brotherly love. :)

Ber and her only niece

 

Ryan and Zack

They did their wedding based on Dr. Who. Having never seen the show myself ... I guess the pocket watch and the toy thing (sonic screwdriver I think they said?) are significant. I'm glad they can be nerdy together. :) Love them both!

The entire family (Curbishley side)

Our first family photo of the 5 of us (we definitely need a better one!)

More Dr. Who and their reception

Dancing with her sweet Grandad

Dallan and Nanan

(Seriously, why is my mouth open?)

This is Ruby and Jude. They are Ber, Kace and Mart's cousins kids. They are super adorable and I was glad I got to see them!

Jude busting a move and showing off his mad dancing skills!

When the Aquabats 'Super Rad' comes on, you have to do a circle. I think it's a requirement. :) 

...And it's one of Ethan's all time favorite songs, so he was there dancing right along side everyone else!

The wedding the next day was at the Brigham temple. Logan was closed for cleaning. I had no idea what I was going to do about the fact that I had a two week old. My mom and Debi came and watched her for me so I could go to the sealing. Love these two!

There was quite the incredible experience that happened during the sealing, but since Ber hasn't heard the story yet (I want to make sure she hears it from Grandad and not on my blog) I will update this after she knows what happened. But during the sealing, I just watched both of their faces. Ber was incredibly overwhelmed (makes total sense! It was a completely new life changing experience for her!) and you could tell she wasn't catching anything that was going on. Dallan on the other hand, was just beaming. I loved watching him and just seeing him glowing! He was so happy, and it made me so happy for both of them. Congratulations Ber and Dallan! We love you both!

**Updated with the story from the sealing: For months leading up to her wedding, Ber had expressed how she needed her Dad to be there whether the family was fighting or not, because he is her only parent left. (It's the same for Kace, George and Mart too, but it seemed to have affected Ber much more at this moment). We had told her that no matter what, we would be there for her, to love and support her and Dallan. As we walked into the sealing room, it was beautiful and peaceful. The Sealer started in on his talk to Ber and Dallan, and I (along with just about everybody in the room) started to let my mind wander. He was incredibly boring and hard to pay attention too. Grandad was a witness and later told us that he couldn't follow along and starting to let his mind wander too.  At that point, he looked up and distinctly saw Karen (Mart, Ber, Kace and George's mom, his daughter) standing next to Ber with eyes only for her daughter. She was so proud of her daughter and the choice she was making. Not only did Ber have her 'one living parent' with her there that day, she had both of her parents. Before it was over, Mart felt her wrap her arms around him and embrace him. He was so overwhelmed when we left the room that we had to stop in the hall and let him regain his composure. What an amazing experience.

**Photos all courtesy of Lou Collins and Lookin Fly Photography!**